You know that person who always seems to have bad luck? You know, that person. Their car breaks down so they can’t get to work and because they can’t get to work they lost their, so they can’t pay for car repairs and now they have broken a tooth but lost their benefits when they lost their job and they can’t their rent so now they’re going to be homeless… etc, etc. You know this person, we all know this person. We’re going to call him Mr. Gloom.
And then there’s that other person who always seems to get exactly what they want. They want a promotion, they get it. They want more money, it just seems to show up. They always seem to have the car they want, the house, the friends, the career and everything seems to just flow for them. You would think they were born with a horse shoe stapled to their forehead. Do you know this person? We’ll call her Ms. Sunshine.
So what’s the difference between the two? It’s the 6 inches between their ears that makes the difference.
Have you heard of the Law of Attraction? You might have some knowledge of it, or maybe you’re an expert in it. If you don’t know much about it, I’m going to give you a brief introduction to help you get on the right track towards getting what you want in life. Sound good?
So what is the law of attraction or LOA as I’ll refer to it (because I’m feeling lazy)?
Well, first of all, it’s a law. Just like the law of gravity. You don’t have to believe in it, but it’s still going to be working anyway. Like the law of gravity, you could challenge it, you could jump off a building but you’re not going to fly, you’ll fall and it’s probably going to hurt. The LOA works in they same way. You could challenge it, but you probably won’t like the outcome.
So how does it work?
Well, simply put, what you put out is what you get back. Imagine you have a radio antenna coming out of the top of your head that sends signals out into the universe. Whatever you’re thinking about, focusing on or doing sends a signal out the universe that you want more of it and the universe sends you more without bias.
If you are in debt and drowning in it and all you can think about is “I must get out of debt, oh my God I’m drowning in debt, I can’t stand it, I need to pay off this debt… debt, debt, debt…” what are you focusing on? Debt! What are you going to get more of? Debt! This is how our Mr. Gloom thinks. Now what if you could change your thinking to focus on abundance and trusting that an abundance of wealth is coming to you? How do you think things would start to change? This is how our Ms. Sunshine thinks. Always focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
As mentioned before, you don’t have to believe in the LOA, but it’s always going to be working anyway. Wouldn’t it be great to use it in your favour?
Here are three basic fundamentals of LOA to help get you started. There’s more to it than this, but these three principals will get you off on the right track.
You have to ask for what you want and be specific. Imagine you go to a restaurant and when the server asks for your order, you say “I don’t know… I want food”. What are you going to get? Probably nothing because the server has no idea what to bring you. Now let’s say you ask for beef. Now what will you get? Who knows?! Maybe beef broth, beef stew, a beef burger or maybe the prime rib leftovers sitting in the bottom of the garbage can. Who knows what you’ll get. Now what if you ask for “steak, medium rare with garlic mashed potatoes and a side caesar salad.” Now what are you going to get? A steak, medium rare with garlic mashed potatoes and as side caesar salad. Be specific about what you want.
Focus on it. Think about what you want as often as possible. Put pictures of it on vision boards, write about it in a journal, meditate on it and believe that it is absolutely going to happen. In fact, believe that it IS happening already.
Now this is the one I think most people forget about when they start to use the LOA. You have to GET OFF YOUR ASS! Seriously! You have to actually GET OFF YOUR ASS and DO SOMETHING! You can imagine and visualize the greatest possible career for yourself, you can write about it, make vision boards of it, but until you actually DO SOMETHING, NOTHING IS GOING TO HAPPEN!
There you have it. 3 things you can start doing to get more of what you want int life. Be specific, focus and take action.
Sometimes it’s hard though to see your own bad habits, thoughts and beliefs. This is where coaching comes in. Imagine how much more successful you could be if you had someone outside of yourself, calling you out on all the stuff you’re doing that’s no longer serving a purpose in getting you what you want in life. You might find you’d be unstoppable.